Do you tend to be the last person on your list of priorities? 

Do you consistently put others’ needs above your own, sometimes at the expense of your own wellbeing?

This way of being is so ingrained in many of us that we have stopped noticing it, let alone, questioning it.

Overgiving is something I am very familiar with - so are many of the women I support. How often do we tell ourselves, “I will get to me when everything else is done” or “It’s easier if I just handle this myself” or “I’ll make time to look after myself later.” 

But later never comes, and each one of these small moments where we give beyond our capacity is an act of self-abandonment. It erodes us by chipping away at our energy, our joy, and ultimately our sense of self. 

For so many women, this self-sacrificing narrative feels normal. As women, our culture praises us for how much we give, how much we do, and how little we ask for in return. 

We need reminding of this fundamental truth: others matter, but we do too.