Writings & Musings
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Insight and inspiration on living unhurried lives, overcoming feminine burnout, reclaiming our radiance and self-sovereignty and embracing our brilliance.
The Invisible Giver: Why Emotional Exhaustion Comes from More Than Just Doing Too Much
We naturally assume that exhaustion comes from doing too much. From overcommitting, overextending, and carrying too much on our plates.
And of course, this absolutely contributes to a sense of feeling physically exhausted and depleted.
But often, there is a deeper layer to our exhaustion, which we may not perceive.
It comes from giving without being met.
Pouring out without being poured into. Offering support without being acknowledged.
It’s the emotional exhaustion of being so reliable and endlessly available that our giving becomes invisible.
This kind of exhaustion is rooted in a lack of reciprocity, and beyond leaving us tired, it leaves us feeling hollow…
Recovering From Burnout: A Somatic Approach To Healing And Flourishing Again
Burnout doesn’t come crashing down on us all at once. It’s more like a tap dripping - slow, steady, almost imperceptible - until one day, the tank is empty. It’s a gradual wearing away of our energy, our capacity, and our vitality. And because the slope is so gentle, we may not even realise how far we have gone until we are completely depleted.
For women, who often juggle caregiving, demanding careers, and conflicting responsibilities, burnout can feel like an inevitability - almost a byproduct of constantly holding multiple strands.
Burnout can often be accompanied by a sense of shame or a feeling of inadequacy, but it isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s our body’s intelligence at play saying “It’s time to stop, I can’t keep going like this”. Wisely, our body pulls the emergency brake on our behalf to stop further depletion.
Burnout is our body’s way of protecting us, asking us to pause, rest, and recalibrate.
From Fixing to Witnessing: A Somatic Approach to Embracing Our Whole Self With Compassion
When was the last time you experienced stress, anxiety, sadness or another tender or uncomfortable emotion?
Did you notice an instinctual urge to make it go away or fix it?
For many of us, fixing, numbing or suppressing our emotions has become a well practised way of coping in difficult moments.
We might pick up our phone and scroll through our social media feed, get busy with our to-do list, or eat food that feels particularly comforting - without truly noticing.
These strategies often serve us well for a while.
They may have enabled us to cope with emotions that felt too overwhelming to open ourselves up to, without the fear of drowning in them.
But they are not sustainable.
They often leave the underlying emotions unresolved.
The Fear of Being Seen: How to Embrace Our Brilliance, and Take Up Space In A Way That Feels Safe
Within my personal experience, and through the coaching explorations I have had with many women, one of the most insidious and common fears I see is this: the fear of being seen and of taking up the space we yearn for.
It’s a subtle, persistent voice inside of us that says, “It’s safer to remain unnoticed, to not take up too much space.” urging us to shrink and to stay small, to protect ourselves from judgment or criticism.
For many of us, it quietly lingers in the background of our lives (sometimes unnoticed), yet it powerfully shapes the way we show up in every area of our life.
Perhaps it’s something you too, are familiar with? If so, you are most certainly not alone.
